Lesson 10

Old
Way: That he could buy a family, love.
Challenge: Judith
disrupts Em’s plan by going along with it till the money runs out.
Challenge
Question: How does this
approach contribute to the authenticity and depth of meaningful
relationships.
How
it might play out: Em
embraces a lie which goes on as long as Judith wants it to.

Old
Way: That his existing relationship
with Kimberly is severed forever.
Challenge: Em must
overcome the fact that he is no longer in charge of Kimberly and that
she needs to do whatever he says. She is her own woman now. She can
make decisions that he will disagree with. She will challenge him.
Challenge
Question: Would a more
open and empathetic communication about values, understanding, and
mutual respect contribute to the potential for rebuilding and
strengthening their connection?
How
it might play out: If Em
would only freaking talk with Kimberly and listen to why she did what
she did he might understand and the relationship could be healed.

Old
Way: That his mental health is
failing and that he must relinquish some control.
Challenge: Em must
learn and/or understand that he does not have the mental faculties he
once had and that he needs to lean on and trust Kimberly more and more.
Challenge
Question: Could Em’s
embrace of vulnerability and seeking support from others enhance his
overall well-being and potentially lead to a more fulfilling and
supported late stage of life?
How
it might play out: Em
would gradually see that his old ways are not working. He is so
desperate he finally begins to try whatever will work, relinquishing
control.

Old
Way: Reliance on
Men
Challenge: Judith
challenges this rule by being her own woman. She pretends or leads Em
to think he’s in charge but in her own mind, she has no intentions of
letting him be the boss.
Counterexample: Imagine a thriving community where both men and women
actively collaborate in leadership roles, each contributing their
unique skills and perspectives.
How
it might play out: Em
wouldn’t have tried to plan out everything thinking Judith couldn’t do
it nor wanted to do it thus he would have relied on Judith to provide
input, solutions and contribute financially thus saving him his money.

Old
Way: That he could buy a family, love.
Challenge: Judith
disrupts Em’s plan by going along with it till the money runs out.
Counterexample:
That
two individuals build a strong bond based on shared values, mutual
respect, and emotional connection.
How
it might play out: If Em
would have employed this thinking he would have seen that the
relationship could not continue without buying her out.

Old
Way: That his existing relationship
with Kimberly is severed forever.
Challenge: Em must
overcome the fact that he is no longer in charge of Kimberly and that
she needs to do whatever he says. She is her own woman now. She can
make decisions that he will disagree with. She will challenge him.
Counterexample:
Imagine
a scenario where Em and Kimberly engage in open and honest
communication about their differences, acknowledging and respecting
each other’s perspectives.
How
it might play out: If Em
could embrace this, then he initially would not be able to help Judith
financially thus ending the con, exposing who she really was then Em
would at least have some money to fall back on once Kimberly believes
Judith is gone forever.

Old
Way: That his mental health is
failing and that he must relinquish some control.
Challenge: Em must
learn and/or understand that he does not have the mental faculties he
once had and that he needs to lean on and trust Kimberly more and more.
Counterexample:
Em,
recognizing the importance of his personal well-being, decides to
proactively seek support. Despite his initial hesitation to relinquish
control, he engages and embraces a support network.
How
it might play out: As
the story plays out, Em begins to realize that his mental faculties are
not what they use to be and he opens up to the idea of letting Kimberly
help him.

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